The Power in Changing the Mind

This is an entirely new kind of website for me to design. It is significantly different to any I’ve created in the past, primarily because its main focus is ‘me.’ It needed to be designed and developed to serve a rather complex, yet specific function – that being to both stand itself as a model of my work, as well as to showcase a portfolio for a body of work that spans nearly 3 decades. In addition, it’s designed to help inspire and make new connections with folks interested in, well, anything from collaborating with me on one-off creative projects, to inquiring about my availability to do freelance or contract work, all the way to discussing full-time, fully committed employment opportunities.

In short, I’m open for business for the first time in a while; perhaps only for a limited time, too, should some wonderfully creative connection be made sooner rather than later. What I am certain of is that incredibly exciting and fun opportunities are just on the horizon. Of this, I have no doubt!

So, rather than an introductory blog posted on the site covering the kind of  topics I’m more known for – something deep and thought-provoking, a philosophical rant, or a techie-post about artificial intelligence, or an article to shine light on advanced potential inherent in all people, this one simply is going to address a common problem in our default problem solving skills… albeit from an advanced, philosophical, mindful, and perhaps even spiritual view.

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One of the biggest observable obstacles people tend to come up against when facing what they perceive as a new problem, however disguised its appearance may appear, is always some form of a very old and very common paradox. It’s rooted in our default human programing – the way we are seemingly programmed to solve “problems.” A problem we could fundamentally say is something – anything – that one chooses not to accept ‘as it is,’ and so feels a desire or need to change or correct it somehow. 

Our response to “the problem” generally is not recognized as being common because whatever thing we’re looking to solve or change is always showing up in this world of material form in different, shifting forms. When confronted with a problem, we usually box ourselves into solving it in just one of two ways:

    1. Make or change _________ to fit (or solve) the problem – changing this, that or the other thing to fit the business need, the environment, the world, etc. (by far, the most common approach people take)


    1. Change the problem to fit my __________ – changing the need, environment or world to fit this, that or the other thing (clearly the far more difficult approach)

Jumping straight into default ‘find a fix’ solution mode, very rarely does a third option ever come to mind:

    1. Change my mind about the problem (business need, etc.)

A good and very useful example of this is, well, growing up. Most of us, it would seem, like to think, we are raised to think or were made to think, that it somehow serves us to change ourselves to fit into this world; a sorely troubled world that arguably can be mean, hurtful, hateful and downright insane. But in so doing, how many people ever get, or take, the time – the awareness – to find out who they really are behind all those masks they make? They’re too busy molding and remodeling the images they hold of themselves to fit into the world, as they perceive it. They believe if they just change this or that about themselves, then, maybe only then, they’ll be happier. “Then” can become so elusive that these people, usually in some form of breakdown, find themselves having lived like chameleons; like the rabbit endlessly chasing after some carrot on the end of a string.

Then there are those who, bent on changing the world to fit themselves, spend incredible amounts of energy, money and resources over long periods of time making plans, getting involved in committees, associations, sitting in big chairs, nudging here and there until the world changes just enough to make the their world appear more acceptable to them. They may come to know a degree of material “success” as they define it, and will likely come to learn more about themselves than the chameleon folks. But these ones usually end up becoming increasingly rigid and overly controlling of the people and circumstances around them. Having developed aggressive patterns, being pushy in their thoughts and subsequent behaviors, they cannot stop pushing. They often struggle to have or maintain any true, affectionate relationships because they are simply harder to be around. They neither know, nor often can even sense, when not to control aspects of their lives, or the people around them, so their relationships suffer, sometimes horribly so.

What GREAT power lies in the wisdom of overlooking both options #1 and #2, bypassing them altogether to focus wholly, not on changing myself to fit the world, nor on changing the world to fit me, but on the simple idea of changing my mind about one, the other, or both. It’s really that simple and incredibly empowering to look first at changing our thoughts about a problem or issue we face – what we presently think about ourselves, what we think or have learned about the world (or in less lofty terms, about the business problem presently confronting us). Doing so engages our NATURAL creative faculties right out of the gate, helping us think and imagine so that there IS no box to think either within or outside of. Instead of our egos being reinforced, humility allows for unexpected outcomes. The past doesn’t dictate the outcomes. The IS no problem; there ARE no problems… there are only opportunities. Opportunities are everywhere, all around us, just waiting for our awareness to land on them.

This is where I am today. I can tell you first-hand, it works exquisitely every time and in any situation – at work, at school, or at home. I hope this little nugget shared here helps bring to your mind all kinds of new ways of looking both at yourself and all that appears in your life; all in a new light. The real, lasting solution to our problems is rarely, if ever, about changing ourselves or the world – it’s always about changing our minds about ourselves and/or the world. It is then that we come to truly know ourselves for who we are underneath all the roles we play; and we begin to understand the true nature of cause and effect as it actually operates in this human experience.

Until next time,


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